The following is a Facebook conversation with Z that has left me somewhat irked. It started off when Z's status read "Will be back at uni (studying!) in October, the terrorising shall begin again." I was reminded of a conversation we had previously, about how we had wasted our Uni years by being good when there was so much we could have gotten away with but didn't. Hence, I sent the first email:

 

Girl: going back to uni? for a second shot at all the good things you missed out on the first time round?

 

Z: You got it!!! Not going to make any conservative mistakes this time round!! Going hell for leather!! Hows is your gorgeous self these days?

 

Girl: haha! where are you going? and what are you doing? (education-wise!) I'm ok, just swamped with work :( have an appeal tmr and trial on thursday and i'm going to just move into my office.

 

Z: LSE, Masters in Finance. MBA seemed like too much hassle as i didnt want to go into consultancy or anything. If i had thought this out better i would have done an MBA just for the sake of going to school in the US! Your hot, have sex. It'll make you feel better! p.s. On a serious note, that sounds like complete poo!

 

Girl: I'm being holy this month :-p the only after-dark pleasures i'll be indulging in are chocolate and milo dinosaurs! work is tough but i'm going on holiday in october so at least i have somehting to look forward to :) how long is your course? i'm assuming you're giving up working for awhile as well then?

 

Z: hahaha, very good point!! At least you can have after-dark pleasures! I need to find someone to have that kind of fun with! :-( Where you going on holiday? Its a 2 year course, and yup NO work... wooo!!

 

Girl: Actually, there isn't anyone to have after dark pleasures with here either. But on the bright side, only a month or so till uni... i'm sure you'll find plenty of people to have fun with ;) I'm off to london and milan in october. somewhat random i know but i'm super excited. i haven't been since i graduated and i have been dying to go back.

 

Z: Well.... if you are in london, give me a shout!... after dark fun if you want ;-)

 

Girl: i'll think about it.

 

And am currently thinking that I probably won't. I mean come on.... our conversations have always been on the flirty side (alright, they are often overtly sexual) but this is just getting a wee bit much. He sounds like he just wants to have sex with me and while thats vaguely flattering, I'm just not that kinda girl honey. I may flirt and tease but I'm not looking for random sex with some dude who'll forget my name afterwards.

 

Z had been introduced to me by our mutual friend who thought we would be suited to each other. And while he's what many girls may describe as a "catch" (ie, ridiculously good-looking, very intelligent and rolling in the dough), not to mention that he's the exact kind of guy my mother would pat me on the head for a job well done if I were to bring him home, he's just starting to sound a tad skeezy to me.

 

I dunno. Perhaps I've given off all the wrong signals and I've been placed in his "random hook-up/have fun with" category which is exactly where I didn't want to be. And perhaps my recent obsession with a book entitled "Why men love bitches" may have something to do with this, I think its time to pull back and leave Z hanging. I know I deserve better. And if Z doesn't know that too, that's really his loss.